When Everyone Is Succeeding (And I’m Just… Here)

The other night, I was scrolling Instagram—half-tired, half-looking for a little mental break—when I saw a post from a mom I’ve followed since before I became one. I’ve followed her for years. We don’t actually know each other, but in a way, it feels like we’ve been growing together: relationships, babies, motherhood. Our kids are around the same age.

And lately, she’s been sharing these updates—renovating her dream home, launching a product, announcing the book she just finished writing. All at once.

And all I could feel was this heavy weight in my chest.

I want those things too.

I’ve dreamed of writing, of creating something that’s mine, of feeling that sense of movement and momentum—those big wins.

But I haven’t even managed to finish one.

Instead… I’m here.

I’m here juggling a full-time job and two very young kids.

Trying to figure out how to help them manage their emotions, trying to be emotionally mature and available while barely holding myself together.

And in that moment, it all hit me.

I don’t even have someone nearby to grab a coffee with.

Then a few minutes later, I saw another post—this time from an old friend—sharing news of her new project coming to life. Another creative idea brought to reality.

And again, I felt that ache.

Because right now, I can’t even land on one idea that excites me and feels doable.

What I’d like requires time I don’t have or money I can’t spend.

And suddenly, the inner voice started:

You’re falling behind.

You’re not enough to do this.

You don’t have what it takes.

Frustration. Sadness. Guilt. Exhaustion. The whole package.

There hasn’t been a magical moment of clarity since then—no deep realization that made it all better, yet. I’m still in it. Still figuring it out. Still wondering what my version of success looks like, and if I’m allowed to want more while holding so much already.

But maybe that’s okay.

Maybe naming it is the first step.

Thanks for reading.

If this resonated with you, I’d love to know. Leave a comment, send a message, or just take a moment to breathe.
We’re all in this together, and sometimes just knowing that can make all the difference.

—Dalia 🤍

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